For some time now I have been talking about you and your gift. I would like you to know that your gift is a solution to someone’s problem and failure to deploy and develop your gift simply means you are depriving someone of the benefit of your gifts.
What could be the major reasons why people are afraid to express their gifts?
Let’s look at them below.
They fear they are not enough:
One of the reasons why people are shy or afraid to express their gift or talent is because they regularly have this feeling of not being enough. Most of the time this is born out of a lack of self confidence. Do you regularly feel you don’t know enough? Do you just feel your gift doesn’t deserve you? Yeah, that’s the enemy of your gift. You are a perfect fit for every gift you have and you have all that is needed to fully express your giftings.
We fear that our gifts and talents are not good enough
While we may be extremely talented and gifted, we may live with the fear that our talents are not good enough. We fear that it is only the people around us, the ones that have been closest to us all this time, that have been telling us that we have talent. That other people will not think so, that they will think we are talentless, and that we have been lying to ourselves. There is an overwhelming fear of not being encouraged and supported in the way that we have.
We fear that we will be rejected.
Rejection is one of the most feared and powerful emotions that we can face. Many people will not share their gifts with the world out of fear of rejection. If someone never shares what they have created with anyone, they can never experience rejection. They also cannot experience the joy of success and appreciation of their work. The world is deprived of their unique voice.
They fear they have nothing original
That feeling you get that alot of people are already doing what you are doing. They fear that there is nothing beyond this, no creativity, no new ideas. While they may be full of impressive ideas and creations, they never take the chance out of the fear of what is next, or if there is a next for them. The reality is that if they were once creative, they always will be, and they just need to have faith in themselves.
They are afraid of Criticism
People will always criticize, what you do with criticism is what matters. Just because you don’t want to hear negative feedback as regard to the expression of your gift should not stop you from using it. I read the story of a lady who got criticized by her teacher and classmate about her artistic gift. She was jeered for being good only at drawing, she was told that artists and their works are only appreciated after they die, so she is going to be poor. So, she dropped a drawing gift. She is over 60yrs she detest drawing but still can’t find expression to her gift outside drawing. Never allow criticism to hold you back.
Fear of Perfection
Perfectionism is often referred to as Atelophobia. As with any phobia, people with atelophobia think about the fear of making a mistake in any way; it makes them avoid doing things because they would rather do nothing than do something and risk a mistake. If you are the type that feels everything must be top notch before you lunch out, it may be stalling your gift lunch out. I am in no way saying you should do things anyhow but never seek for everything to be ok before you lunch out. Lunch your gift where you are, what you have is enough, Don’t seek perfection but grow into perfection. Just start it, you grow along the line, just start, you make corrections as you progress.
Fear of stepping into their light
What is it about the spotlight we fear so much?
So many of us claim to want to stand out from the crowd, but when the time comes for the blinding light of attention to shine directly on us, we freeze.
Your gift brings you to the spotlight and this is something that scares some people. The fear of becoming a subject of discussion, the fear becoming visible.
Fear is a trap, never allow it to hold you down. You don’t need to see the whole staircase, just take the first step. Start living your dream, stop living your fear.